What are Needs?
- Have your students watch the video on underlying needs and then the example videos.
- Have students read the following article on Underlying Needs and give them the Underlying Needs handout.
- Have students go through the game matching examples with underlying needs
- Show the students the Iceberg Model video.
- Give students the Iceberg Model handout. Discuss strategies, positions, and interests in relation to needs.
- Have students write out a full conflict scenario, real or imaginary. Have students note the positions, needs, interests, and strategies that are part of this conflict.
- Have students read the article on Techniques for Addressing Underlying Interests and Needs.
- Have students analyze one of their own conflicts with a partner using the worksheet.
- Teach your students to use an I-Message to let others know what they need in a conflict situation. They can use the formula: I feel _____ when _______ because I need ______. Would you (or) Can we __________?
Example: I feel irritated when I'm left waiting to be picked up without any message because I need to be able to rely on my ride. Would you please be on time next time or let me know by text if you're going to be late?
- Have your students practice saying I-Messages with one another.